On the topic of love, I’ve been thinking lately about another crucial part of relationships: attraction. You know, the mutual feeling you share with someone where you just want to…(I’ll let you fill in the blanks).
I definitely believe the physical component is essential to a successful relationship. But I also know that much like love, it’s the part that fades out quickly if not treated with attention and care.
Today, I went shopping and bought a super hot outfit, boots and all. And while it was kind of overpriced and impractical, I know how important it is to remind myself that I am sexy – if not for me, then definitely for my partner.
The thing is, there’s always an excuse to let yourself go or to stop caring. This is especially true when you’ve been in a relationship for quite a few years – and I’m not even there yet!
“Oh, I don’t have to shave my legs, he won’t care anyways.”
“Why should I buy a cute new outfit when I have a million others?”
“Who cares about what I eat or whether or not I exercise, he’ll love me anyways.”
OR (likely the most common one)
“I’m waaay too tired for this tonight.”
I don’t have much experience with relationships, but I do know that I want my marriage to last. I don’t want to be part of that 50% statistic that ends up divorced.
And while learning to love and understanding the meaning of it is half the battle, the other half involves basic attraction and keeping the spark, at the very least, flickering.